Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Umar jadi Cikgu

Ngendap dari jauh...
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Itu dia tengah nyonteng kat dinding..aduhaii..bertambah lagi art work kat dinding tu..kusyuk jer bila dah dekat tersengeh-sengeh..walau dah bagi pensel + kertas + papan putih..tetap jugak nak kerjakan dinding tu. Alamatnya kenalah tukar cat tahun depan.

AL-Kindi Garden Concert & Graduation Day

Entry ni dah lepas..masa penyampaian sijil. Ingatkan Luqman dpt sijil gak..rupanya untuk bebudak 6 tahun jer..manalah kita tau kan..tahun depan la baru nengok Luqman pakai jubah tu..hehe. Pagi2 lagi Luqman dah bangun..aku memang lah dah bangun awal2 ..siapkan sarapan..pagi tu Luqman dengan seleranya menjamu selera bihun goreng ibu..









Luqman dengan classmate nyer..kat sebelah lagi tu kata Luqman namanya Raja..anak polis..selalu buli Luqman..Balik jer citer pasal budak ni..kekadang cerita baik2..kekadang ngadu budak ni buat dia la..kacau dia lah...











Luqman masuk fashion show..pakai baju punjabi..

Monday, November 16, 2009

9 Jenis Pembaziran...

Ibnu al-Qayum al-Jauziah mengatakan terdapat sembilan bentuk pembaziran yang sering dilakukan manusia antaranya:

  1. Pembaziran ilmu pengetahuan - iaitu membazir jika tidak diamalkan pada jalan kebaikan.
  2. Pembaziran amalan - iaitu membazir jika tidak dilakukan dengan hati yang ikhlas
  3. Pembaziran kekayaan - iaitu membazir jika dibelanjakan pada perkara yang tidak bermanfaat dan tidak diredai Allah SWT.
  4. Pembaziran hati - iaitu membazir jika kosong daripada kasih kepada Allah SWT.
  5. Pembaziran tubuh badan - iaitu membazir jika tidak digunakan untuk beribadah kepada Allah SWT.
  6. Pembaziran cinta - iaitu membazir jika dicurahkan kepada selain Allah atau melebihi cinta kepada-Nya.
  7. Pembaziran masa - iaitu membazir jika tidak diurus dengan sebaiknya.
  8. Pembaziran akal - iaitu membazir jika tidak memikirkan sesuatu yang bermakna kepada Agama.
  9. Pembaziran zikir - iaitu membazir jika tidak memberi kesan kepada hati.
Semoga nasihat ini memberi manfaat kepada kita semua.

Sunday, November 8, 2009

Sambutan Hari Lahir Mak Yg ke 54




Entry ni fresh lagi..baru malam tadi kami meraikan Hari Lahir mak bertempat di Pizza Hut Giant. Tarikh Lahir mak pulak sama dengan adik ipar mak iaitu suami kepada adik pompuan mak yg no.6 ke 7 tak ingat aku sebab sumer ada 12 org.Meriah sungguh..maklumla keluarga kami ni besar.Adik beradik mak dengan sepupu2 jer dah penuh corum. Malam tu pulak tak tau kenapa telinga aku sebelah jadi blur..bukan otak je blur..telinga pun boleh..petang tadi masuk air masa mandi..nengok2..sampai berlarutan bila aku guna ubat titik yg dr.bagi masa aku ada masalah telinga dulu. Tak pe ..sabo jer.nanti boleh gi jumpa dr.mintak2 esok ok dah la telinga aku ni..
Ni bukan citer pasal tinga aku..pasal hari lahir mak....kitaorg boleh la masuk pizza ni tapi anak2 aku tak berapa gemar memakannya..selain dari pizza tu yg lain2 dorg makan. Tak kisahla..janji dapat sama2 meraikan..kat bawah ni ada pic2 yg sempat sepupu aku snap..


Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Citer2 sikit

Hari Ahad lepas tak de buat apa2 dok rumah, mengemas rumah, masak macam2 lagi la...kalau baju tu jangan cakapla..berbakul nak nyidai pastu nak angkat lagi ..lipat..cuaca pulak mendung..sidai kat store room penuh macam kat dalam kedai baju je aku nengok, tu belum lagi nak menggosoknyer..aduhhh..letihh..tak baik bersungut Juliana..Malam tu pulak ajar Luqman kira2..biasala aku kalau ngajar org tak leh kalau tak ada sifat kegeraman dan baran...masyaallah, ini lah yg aku cuba untuk kawal, memang dari dulu aku tak leh nak ajar org..mesti aku nak marah2..nak jerit2..kesian jugak Luqman ..makin lama dia dah faham dengan cara ibu dia ngajar sampai nak nangis pun air mata dia takut nak kuar..tapi dengan cara itu lah Luqman boleh mendengar kata..esok2nya dalam kete on the way hantar Luqman ke sekolah dia mula la tanya kenapa ibu marah Luqman semalam?..sedih jer bunyi soalan tu..then aku tryla explain kat dia this and that..akhirnya dia tunduk faham.

Mr.Nizam pun cakap sebab tu lah aku tak ditakdirkan jadi cikgu ..sebab sifat baran aku yg akan meledak bila ngajo budak..tak pasal2 habis budak2 kena tiaw dengan aku..mak bapak dtg serang aku pulak kat sekolah..tapi tak per..akan diperbaiki benda2 ni sumer..Insyaallah.banyakkan beristigfar yer puan Juliana..hehe

Sepanjang minggu lepas Huzaifah & Umar demam.Dorg kalau demam tak banyak rengek..diam jer..cuma nak kena ada org teman kat sebelah..nak berdokong..tu yg tak larat tu..hendaknya dalam keadaan macam ni.Alhamdulillah dorg dah beransur pulih ..la ni Luqman pulak yg demam semalam.tak sekolah la dia sehari..kat sekolah tu tengah sibuk2 rehearsal untuk concert sebelum cuti sekolah nanti..graduation day is coming..

Hari ni pulak nampak gaya tekak tak sedap jer..walaupun banyak benda aku tingin nak makan.Aku kena tingkatkan tahap kecergasan ni..sebab nanti aku kena jaga diri sendiri dalam pantang next year..doa2 kan la aku sihat yer kawan2..tima kasih..Aku rasa macam tak percayalah aku dah ada anak nak masuk 4 pun..rasa aku ni macam masih kecil lagi..hehe..pasan tahap melampau la tu..dalam umur yg macam ni aku planning jugak dengan Mr.Nizam untuk sama2 mengerjakan haji..Insyaallah bila sumer dah cukup dan Allah mengizinkan kami menyahut seruanNYA..berangkatlah kami ke tanah suci..itu salah satu impian aku.










Sunday, November 1, 2009

Tak Mau Rotan ..Jerit pun Jadilah

For Some Parents, Shouting is the new spanking..


NEW YORK, Oct 23 — Jackie Klein is a devoted mother of two little boys in the suburbs of Portland, Ore. She spends hours ferrying them to soccer and Cub Scouts. She reads child-development books. She can emulate one of those pitch-perfect calm maternal tones to warn, “You’re making bad choices” when, say, someone doesn’t want to brush his teeth.

That is 90 per cent of the time. Then there is the other 10 per cent, when, she admits, “I have become totally frustrated and lost control of myself.”

It can happen during weeks and weeks and weeks of no camp in the summer, or at the end of a long day at home — just as adult peace is within her grasp — when the 7- or 9-year-old won’t go to sleep.

And then she yells.

“This is ridiculous! I’ve been doing things all day for you!”

Many in today’s pregnancy-flaunting, soccer-cheering, organic-snack-proffering generation of parents would never spank their children. We congratulate our toddlers for blowing their nose (“Good job!”), we friend our teenagers (literally and virtually), we spend hours teaching our elementary-school offspring how to understand their feelings. But, incongruously and with regularity, this is a generation that yells.

“I’ve worked with thousands of parents and I can tell you, without question, that screaming is the new spanking,” said Amy McCready, the founder of Positive Parenting Solutions, which teaches parenting skills in classes, individual coaching sessions and an online course.

“This is so the issue right now. As parents understand that it’s not socially acceptable to spank children, they are at a loss for what they can do. They resort to reminding, nagging, timeout, counting 1-2-3 and quickly realise that those strategies don’t work to change behaviour. In the absence of tools that really work, they feel frustrated and angry and raise their voice. They feel guilty afterward, and the whole cycle begins again.”

Amy Wilson, a writer and actress in Manhattan, used to give up shopping for Lent. That was before she had children, now ages 6, 5 and 2. This year she gave up yelling. Or tried to. “It didn’t really work,” she said, “but I definitely yelled less.”

Wilson has written a humorous autobiographical book about parenting, to be published next year, called “When Did I Get Like This?” An entire chapter is devoted to her personal efforts to curtail her yelling.

A one-woman show, “Mother Load,” which she wrote and performed Off Broadway and will take on tour for the second time next year, opens with a yelling scene that draws laughs and includes the line “I have had it with looking for puppy” in a high-decibel lament that rings true to anyone who has searched for a favourite stuffed animal for the seventh time in a day.

Familial screamers have long been a beloved part of American pop culture, from the Costanzas of “Seinfeld” back to the Goldbergs of radio and early television, but they didn’t yell at small children. And though previous generations of parents may have yelled in real life — Dr. Spock called shouting “inevitable from time to time” — this generation of parents seems to be uniquely troubled by their own outbursts.

“My name is Francesca Castagnoli and I am a screamer,” began a post on Motherblogger..net earlier this year. “Admitting I’m a mom that screams, shouts and loses it in front her kids feels like I’m revealing a dark family secret.”

“It’s not kind,” said Klein in Oregon. “When I’m done I feel awful.”

To research their book “Mommy Guilt: Learn to Worry Less, Focus on What Matters Most, and Raise Happier Kids,” the three authors, Devra Renner, Aviva Pflock and Julie Bort, commissioned a survey of 1,300 parents across the country to determine sources of parental guilt. Two-thirds of respondents named yelling — not working or spanking or missing a school event — as their biggest guilt inducer.

“What blew us away about that is that the one thing you really have ultimate control over is the tone of your voice,” said Pflock, a child development specialist.

Parental yelling today may be partly a releasing of stress for multitasking, overachieving adults, parenting experts say.

“Yelling is done when parents feel irritable and anxious,” said Harold S. Koplewicz, the founder of the New York University Child Study Centre. “It can be as simple as ‘I’m overwhelmed, I’m running late for work, I had a fight with my wife, I have a project due — and my son left his homework upstairs.’ “

Numerous studies exist on the effect of corporal punishment on children. A new one came out just last month. Led by a researcher at Duke University’s Centre for Child and Family Policy, the study concluded that spanking children when they are very young (1-year-old) can slow their intellectual development and lead to aggressive behaviour as they grow older. But there is far less data on the more common habit of shouting and screaming in families.

One study that did take a look at the topic — a paper on the “psychological aggression by American parents” published in the Journal of Marriage and Family in 2003 — found that parental yelling was a near-universal occurrence. Of 991 families interviewed, in 88 per cent of them a parent acknowledged shouting, screaming or yelling at the kids at least once (though it didn’t specify how many did it more often) in the previous year.

“We are so accustomed to this that we just think parents get carried away and that it’s not harmful,” said one of the study’s lead authors, Murray A. Straus, a sociologist who is a director of the Family Research Laboratory at the University of New Hampshire. “But it affects a child. If someone yelled at you at work, you’d find that pretty jarring. We don’t apply that standard to children.”Psychologists and psychiatrists generally say yelling should be avoided. It’s at best ineffective (the more you do it the more the child tunes it out) and at worse damaging to a child’s sense of well-being and self-esteem.

“It isn’t the yelling per se that’s going to make a difference, it’s how the yelling is interpreted,” said Ronald P. Rohner, director of the Ronald and Nancy Rohner Centre for the Study of Interpersonal Acceptance and Rejection at the University of Connecticut. If a parent is simply loud, he says, the effect is minimal. But if the tone connotes anger, insult or sarcasm, it can be perceived as a sign of rejection.

Rohner noted that while spanking is considered taboo by the major medical and psychological associations, there are still some religious and conservative groups who support it as an effective disciplinary tool, believing that the Bible explicitly allows it.

But, he said, “There is no group of Americans that advocate yelling as a parenting style.”

“My bottom-line recommendation is don’t yell,” he said. “It is a risk factor for a family.”

Easier said than done. Strategies to stop yelling abound. Klein said she has a friend who gives herself a timeout by going into another room when she feels a scream coming on.

Experts suggest figuring out ways to prevent situations that make you most prone to yell. If forgotten homework sends you into the stratosphere, make sure the children have their books and notebooks packed and waiting by the door before they go to bed. If you’re stressed and hungry after a long day at the office, make sure you grab something to eat in the kitchen before you tackle, say, a brewing disagreement over Legos.

Still, there are those moments.

“I’d like to think that most of the time we have a good interaction based on reason,” Lena Merrill said of her 4-year-old daughter, whom she has never spanked. But then there are the times when “she’s done something like poured milk on the floor or ripped a page out of a book,” Merrill said. “I just lose it..”

Usually, she says, she shouts something like, “Why did you do that? Why would you do that?”

“It’s phrased like a question to make her think, but the tone scares her,” Merrill said.

Still, Merrill, a travel consultant in Rutherford, N.J., finds that the threat of yelling can be a convenient stick, much the way the threat of a spanking was in her childhood. Even her husband has taken to using it to encourage good behaviour, she said, issuing the warning:

“Don’t make mommy mad.” — NYT